Live-laugh-love

Sure there are times I doubt myself, WHAT I’m fighting for, and WHY I’m fighting for whatever. It’s good to doubt, I realise, because when you do, you seek for answers. When you seek for answers intensely, most of the time, you’ll get one that’s good enough to push you back the right track.

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” 

-Mother Theresa

I am officially put into a test of ethics.

When I was given the job to be the bearer of bad news to the rejected interviewees of AIESEC (the international organisation I belong to in Curtin), I didn’t think any of those would bother pursuing the matter. But this specific girl just had to ask why. I didn’t read the email until today… and basically another member of AIESEC has already replied to that, saying that her inability to communicate properly was a major part because she couldn’t understand half the things we were saying during the interview.

Let’s call her A. So A replied back, I must say with a little bit of angst, saying that it is not right that she is rejected on that area, when she is working very hard to improve her communication skills. She mentioned that she really wants to give back to the organisation and she is pleading for a second chance.

What is the right thing to do?

She makes me question my ethics when she rebutted on our reason as to why she was rejected. I remember telling my team that those who can’t converse in English should definitely be off the list. Discrimination? I didn’t see it at that time. I mean, delegating jobs are definitely gonna be harder if the person doesn’t understand the instructions. It only takes that one person for the whole process to go haywire… or at least complicate it. Is that reasoning good enough? Is it possible to actually put these people with communication skills problems to be at the back office, like Finance, where there is little interaction with the outside community? I really don’t know. AIESEC is not running a language centre where we are helping students to improve their language competency. We are an organisation who is helping students with that potential to reach even greater heights… I’m not saying A doesn’t have that potential. I just felt she didn’t have that foundation yet to even step on a platform where there is a lot of work, a lot of time commitment, and a lot of communication between portfolios needed. We have KPIs to meet, we have datelines, we have businesses to talk to, so where is the line in giving others that potential, and achieving goals?

In conclusion, Whitney, if you’re reading this, you are such an arse for making me give the bad news!

I’d like to believe that there’s a grey area when it comes for relationships- when you can take a little, and give a little, but never fully committing; things are always kept casual and simple, and when it’s time to go on separate ways, it’s done very amicably.

But is there really?

I think at some point, things are bound to become serious, especially when you’re seeing each other often enough. It’s impossible to keep things with no strings attached. It sucks to be going out with somebody else, and wondering if you should be transparent with both. It sucks to be going out in the clubs, with guys swooning to kiss you on that day, and you’re wondering what your open relationship partner is gonna think. And most of all, it sucks to know that when it comes to that bound-to-get-serious point, you’re wondering if you’re gonna leave hesitantly with an aching heart.

I guess my point is, a casual relationship just don’t make it. You either give all or nothing, commit fully or not, decide to make it work or leave it. So in other words, you’re either in or out, no? And I’m only beginning to see it.

And maybe, my other point is, Facebook should stop giving too many options- you’re either taken, or not, there’s no such thing as it’s complicated.